Why Relationships Return to the Same Pattern
A familiar difficulty People often reach a point where they are tired of having the same conversation. One person raises a concern. The other hears criticism and explains or defends. The first person repeats the point more forcefully. The other goes quiet or leaves. Both are left with a familiar conclusion: I cannot get through, […]
Is Couples Therapy Always About Staying Together
Understanding the True Purpose of Couples Therapy When people hear the term “couples therapy,” they often assume its sole purpose is to help partners stay together. However, the reality is far more nuanced. While many couples seek therapy to rebuild their relationship, others use it as a safe space to navigate separation in a healthy […]
Five Losing Strategies Couples Fall into During Conflict
Terry Real highlights five losing strategies that couples often fall into during conflicts. These strategies don’t work because they create disconnection instead of solving problems. Here’s a simple explanation so couples can recognise and avoid them: 1. Being Right What it means: Insisting that your perspective is the only correct one and trying to “win” […]
Preparing for Couples Therapy: A Therapist’s Guide
Couples therapy can be a transformative journey for relationships, providing tools and insights to navigate challenges and strengthen connections. As a therapist, I’ve seen first-hand how preparation can significantly enhance the therapy experience. Here’s how to prepare effectively for couples therapy, ensuring you and your partner get the most out of each session. 1. Set […]
Fighting Fair: Strategies for Couples to Resolve Conflicts Constructively
Conflict is a natural part of any relationship, including romantic ones. However, the way couples handle disputes can make a significant difference in the health and longevity of their relationship. Learning to fight well, or rather, to resolve conflicts constructively, can strengthen the bond between partners and promote a deeper understanding and respect. Here are […]
Can Couples Therapy Help Us Move Past Infidelity?
Infidelity can be one of the most devastating challenges a relationship faces. The breach of trust, feelings of betrayal, and emotional turmoil can seem insurmountable. Yet, despite the profound pain it causes, many couples choose to seek help and attempt to repair their relationship. One common avenue for this healing process is couples therapy. But […]
How to Find the Right Couples Therapist: A Guide to Strengthening Your Relationship
Deciding to seek couples therapy is a significant step towards enhancing your relationship. Whether you’re navigating conflicts, seeking to improve communication, or simply aiming to deepen your connection, finding the right therapist is crucial. Here’s a comprehensive guide to help you choose a couples therapist who can best support you and your partner. 1. Identify […]
What to Expect in Couples Counselling: Insights from a Therapist
Embarking on the journey of couples counselling is a significant step towards strengthening and deepening your relationship. As a therapist, I’ve had the privilege of guiding many couples through this transformative process. If you’re considering counselling, here’s what you can expect from a therapist’s perspective. Initial Consultation: Setting the Stage The first consultation is often […]
Navigating Love: A Male Therapist’s Perspective on Couples Therapy
Relationships are intricate dances between two individuals, each bringing their own unique steps, rhythms, and, occasionally, missteps. As a male couples therapist, I’ve had the privilege of witnessing these dances and helping couples find harmony. Here, I’ll share insights into the world of couples therapy, offering a perspective that aims to break down barriers and […]
Navigating the Virtual Couch: A Therapist’s Perspective on Online Therapy
Navigating the Virtual Couch: A Therapist’s Perspective on Online Therapy In an age where technology has seamlessly integrated into nearly every aspect of our lives, it’s no surprise that therapy has followed suit. The rise of online therapy has ushered in a new era of mental health care, offering convenience, accessibility, and flexibility like never […]