Perturbing the Family System Without imposing Certainty – How small shifts in understanding can open new possibilities for family relationships
When a family becomes certain about its problem Families often seek therapy when the same difficulty has been repeated so many times that everyone feels they already know what is happening. One person is described as controlling, another as distant, another as difficult. These descriptions may capture genuine experiences, yet they can also become fixed […]
Parenting Through Change One Difficult Moment at a Time
Start with one moment Parenting can feel unmanageable when every part of the day seems to bring another argument. It is often more useful to begin with one repeated moment: getting out the door, homework, screen time, bedtime or moving between homes. Choose a recent example and slow it down. What was happening before the […]
When a Child Changes Look at the Wider Picture
A change is a reason to become curious Changes in a child’s behaviour can leave parents wondering what has happened and what they should do next. A child may become quieter, more irritable, clingier or more resistant to routines. A change may appear at home, in school, with friends or in one particular relationship. Parents […]
Why Relationships Return to the Same Pattern
A familiar difficulty People often reach a point where they are tired of having the same conversation. One person raises a concern. The other hears criticism and explains or defends. The first person repeats the point more forcefully. The other goes quiet or leaves. Both are left with a familiar conclusion: I cannot get through, […]